Friday, September 26, 2008

Honesty as the last option?

The web of lies and deceit that I've gotten entangled in since I left the cradle of protection provided by the head guy, me being his assistant and protoge, has gotten so thick that I don't think I can maneuver safely without whipping out my 12 inch Honesty stick and slicing through it - only the big ass spider at the other end is probably gonna end up pissed and ready for a juicy treat after his master web got cracked by a tiny morsel like me.  And yes, none of this deceit was my doing.

The worst thing that I did, which I've been told over and over not to do, was to TRUST someone that I just met.  This society is trusts no one that they didn't grow up with, share blood with, or have some secret death bond with (well that's going a bit far, but you get the picture).  But why in hell should I not trust somebody?  Shouldn't trust be lost, not given down the line as people prove themselves?  Shouldn't society start with trust and move from there?

Wrong - this is not how 3rd world mentality works, or maybe it's a combination of Office mentality + 3rd world mentality.  There are no systems in place here to keep people honest, so being dishonest often means that you can get ahead, such as playing the card game "bullshit."  The guy best at making people believe his lies wins.  I believed someone's lies - that my current boss was holding me back and using me, that she was the only one that could help because she understood me.  

So now here I am: I know she's a liar and a terrible worker and boss.  My old boss now hates me because he thinks I betrayed him to come to work for her.  In reality I did nothing - I just let them argue and went to work for whoever won the battle.  Bad idea.  The one who won the battle has more power and I can gain more influence in the company with her, but that is looking short-term.  She has amounted enemies due to her dishonesty and they are secretly planning her demise.

So do I go down with her?  I can't stand working for her anymore.  I can't stand how she reads into every word and tone as though someone is lying or being deceitful.  Are they all really that way?  If that's true then I'm doomed and even honesty won't save me.  If it's not I might still doomed, as if I'm honest with my previous boss and tell him the situation, he might use it to attack her back and she'll use that to attack me.

Honesty is worth too much to me - I was stupid to let someone talk me out of being honest just because she said "this is China, this is how things work."  If that's how things work here, then I can't be a part of it - like I said in a post a long time ago, you can't always "do what the Romans do" as that might go against what is right.  I've decided that I'm going to take that last option sooner rather than later - I'm going to be honest and face the spider.  You never know, maybe honesty will catch on.  

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